When Theresa Capodiamonte conveyed to Oliver the power he had to set his course was always there within his power, I argued that Oliver's courage to risk placed him closer and closer to the peace he was seeking, and the clarity of purpose and certainty that risking afforded him. This was the basis of Oliver's original House Rule.
In that context, risk was confronting the thing that scared Oliver the most---having his world rearranged by Shane's appearance, and finding out what was on the other side of facing his ending marriage. In an essence, confronting the fickle things in which Oliver placed his identity.
At the same time, however, Oliver was inching closer and closer to the ultimate deconstruction of those things in which Oliver placed his identity, that eventually challenged him to his very core.
As you saw, the deconstruction began with things like Oliver's commitment to "a perfect delivery record [and] a perfect marriage," eventually escalating to challenge his status as an O'Toole. As Oliver stepped out to meet each challenge, he simultaneously removed each thing as a valid source from which to draw his identity until forced to find something outside himself in which to do so.
Let me cut to the chase---Oliver is a man of faith, and God has been pulling Oliver towards Him by taking away every fickle and fleeting thing in which Oliver placed his identity until there was nothing left but God in whom Oliver could---and should---identify.
Who is Oliver if he's not an O'Toole? He's a child of God--plain and simple.
What we should really be asking, however, is the benefit of having all these things stripped away. The answer is simple: a more perfect, stable and unchanging foundation from which to rebuild. And, truth be told, Oliver has already found ways to rebuild, and quickly. Take the newly formed O'Toole Foundation as proof. We'll be discussing that in a few contexts in the coming weeks---so stay tuned!
I mentioned before that the things in which Oliver placed his identity were unstable, so its worth highlighting that there have been some additional sources of stability built around Oliver at the same time. As his world was deconstructed, God had already starting rebuilding to support Oliver as things got increasingly difficult for him to sort through.
One of those things was Shane, who became his confidante, advocate and eventually a safe haven. She even made the commitment in Truth Be Told to stand beside him, having "no plans to leave." Shane weathered with Oliver both his emotional and relational struggles, and has made the unwavering commitment to continue to do so.
Then there's the matter of that inheritance Oliver recently acquired. Through it, Oliver achieved a level of financial stability that perhaps we never even considered he might need. Though we haven't quite figured out the purpose of this inherited fortune for Oliver in a larger sense, we already know he's using it to do good, and, one could argue, to support in the rebuilding and restoration of others.
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